This all started with some yahoo in Apple Fall's chat asking about a "makeover":
[11:05] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Does [Sxxxxx] plan to answer whether it's home redesign or avatar redesign?
Meet Ms. A., today's problem child.
[11:05] Exx Rxxxxx: apparently not
[11:05] Exx Rxxxxx: lol
[11:05] Exx Rxxxxx: so I think we have our answer
[11:06] Axxxx Dxxxxx: maybe th plan is to get Lindens ...
[11:06] Exx Rxxxxx: I doubt it
Oh, here we go.
[11:06] Bxxxx Axxxxxxxx: he's going group to group with that, maybe hacked
[11:06] Exx Rxxxxx: OH well then likely
[11:06] Ixxxx Mxxxx: They asked in a men's clothing/body group
[11:06] Exx Rxxxxx: hadn't seen the name pop up in any other group myself
[11:07] Axxxx Dxxxxx: was said here
[11:07] Exx Rxxxxx: exactly, only group I saw it in
[11:07] Axxxx Dxxxxx: I give up
[11:07] sxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: I messaged them offering to help and got no answer, so it might be a hacked account, but who knows for sure!
[11:07] Munro (irish.munro): Well they're blocked along with some guy named [Exxx] who spams daily.
[11:09] Axxxx Dxxxxx: why refer to one person as they them?
[11:11] sxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: Are you asking me that, [Axxxx]?
I doubt it, based on later commentary.
[11:11] Axxxx Dxxxxx: two did the same
[11:11] Axxxx Dxxxxx: and it was a he who made the original question
[11:11] Axxxx Dxxxxx: I just wonder
[11:12] Axxxx Dxxxxx: Maybe I could get wiser
[11:12] sxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: It doesn't seem odd to me as a person could be them, just as many people could be them. It doesn't always mean more then one.
Was this rude? To me, no. To Ms. A., maybe. I will say it was curt. I am beyond sick of explaining this to people who are just using it as another way to discriminate.
[11:13] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): [Axxxx], do not start with the they/them not singular nonsense. Thanks. It's been in singular usage since the 15th century.
[11:13] Axxxx Dxxxxx: pardon me?
Without bringing up DID, there's no way to really break that misconception down, but as far as they/them usage, it's not just plural usage. It's also in singular usage with a long history of being so.
[11:13] Axxxx Dxxxxx: I ask cause one person cant be plural
But she IMed me in a huff.
[11:14] Axxxx Dxxxxx: dont tlle me I speak nonsense
I mean, that is, at the least, clear, innit?
[11:14] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr) smiles
[11:14] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Then don't start up with they/them cannot be singular
But back to the group chat:
[11:15] sxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: I think she is just curios Emilly.
She could be. She could honestly just be curious. Orrrrr, she could be an anti-feminist insisting that no one can be a 'they', that everyone must be a male or a female. Possibly followed by 'I don't use pronouns', which is ridiculous on the face of it.
Trigger-happy on this issue? You damn betcha. I deal with this nigh on the daily on Twitter at this point.
[11:16] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): It's not used as a plural in context.
Back to the IM:
[11:16] Axxxx Dxxxxx: ok then I am stupid
Didn't call you stupid, Ms. A., just argumentative on a silly issue.
[11:16] Axxxx Dxxxxx: thanks
[11:16] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Shakespeare used it consistently in his plays. We also have other surviving documents from England and France at that time.
Now, I was wrong here. I thought there were surviving documents, but apparently the 'them' usage in France is of recent derivation. That was an error on my part.
[11:18] Axxxx Dxxxxx: French used 'Them'?
[11:19] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Yes.
naturallement
She was right here--in terms of 'them' not being a historical pronoun in the French language. Jury's still out for me on whether I was rude, but eh, it's all in the perception, I guess.
[11:19] Axxxx Dxxxxx: you speak nonsense - and you are rude
[11:19] Axxxx Dxxxxx: sure Them is French
[11:19] Axxxx Dxxxxx:
Back to main chat:
[11:19] Exx Rxxxxx: they/them does not always indicate plural
Back to the IM:
[11:19] Exx Rxxxxx: sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't
[11:20] Exx Rxxxxx: it can be a single person's preferred pronouns
[11:20] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): It can be.
[11:20] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr):
I was quoting from a Connexion France article on the introduction of nonbinary pronouns."French traditional pronouns are il (male), elle (female), ils (plural), elles (plural refering exclusively to female ppl or things).
The most common NB, neutral pronoun is "iel", that can be spelled iels, iell, ielle, ille, illes...
I also know ppl who go by ol, al, ul and yul."
[11:21] Axxxx Dxxxxx: and you know how to insult people
Ah, she blocked me. I figured I'd keep going with what I found, and then close the window, which is what I did.
[11:21] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): https://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2019-12-15/they-singular-grammar-transgender-history
[11:21] Axxxx Dxxxxx: (busy response): If you see this - you are in some real bad company ...
[11:21] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/002748.html
And then I went back to the group chat.
[11:21] Axxxx Dxxxxx: (busy response): If you see this - you are in some real bad company ...
[11:21] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): https://nyulocal.com/shakespeare-used-the-singular-they-and-so-should-you-6452240ca9e0
[11:21] Axxxx Dxxxxx: (busy response): If you see this - you are in some real bad company ...
[11:21] Exx Rxxxxx: in fact, it is not bad practice to default to those pronouns unless someone has specified otherwise
After this, chat went silent for a bit. I had no intention of continuing. She's welcome to stay tucked snug into her safe misconceptions.
[11:22] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): https://phys.org/news/2020-01-chronicles-history-gender-neutral-pronouns-shakespeare.html
[11:22] sxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: I think that may in fact be what I did - I just defaulted to using 'them'
[11:22] Axxxx Dxxxxx: now we speak gender something and political correctness
[11:22] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): It's not political correctness, [Axxxx], it's common courtesy.
[11:27] Dxxxx Hxxxxxx: Ding................ding
I hope that makes you happy, 'cause there's just no turning back
tell the mirror what you know she's heard before
This was weirdly amusing.
[14:48] Axxx Dxxxxx: {{VERY NSFW Flickr link redacted}}?
And this was where, Constant Reader, your Editrix looked up from arranging furniture in a gothic manor and read back.
[14:48] Axxx Dxxxxx: Crap! So wrong window
[14:49] axxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hot gallery
[14:49] Axxx Dxxxxx: Sorry folks.
[14:49] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: or guerrilla marketing? :P
[14:49] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ANNE
[14:49] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: you perv
[14:50] Axxx Dxxxxx: I am trying to prove someone else is and needs to be dumped
[14:50] lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: .... regardless of the content, those are some REALLY nice photos like dang
Because I thought the question should be asked.
[14:50] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: oooo
[14:50] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: gimmme the tea
[14:51] xxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx noms popcorn
[15:04] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): I mean, she says, getting to this late, he definitely has a good eye for composition. But one must ask, since it came up--why is taking artistic nudes a sign that someone should sever a relationship?
[15:04] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: idk maybe didnt ask partner to take such naughty photos with people?
And, at least to me--I know I didn't include the original link, but--his main female model for the intimate shots is the same elf girl, so perhaps this is an ex now? I have no way of knowing.
[15:05] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Well, unless they've been dating for some time, these pictures have been around? The first one posted to his Flickr is dated 2020.
Also true, but as said, the first one was posted way back in 2020, so...
[15:06] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Unless we're simply talking 'ew sex icky', in which case, [Axxx], I guess you're welcome to your opinion, and I don't agree.
[15:07] xxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Depends on how long they've been dating.
[15:07] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): It does.
[15:08] xxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And when the pics were posted to be honest.
[15:08] Axxx Dxxxxx: Long story involved
I mean, am I wrong? This was just a strange conversation all around for this group.
[15:08] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Ah.
[15:08] xxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx shuts up and goes back to her popcorn now.
[15:08] Vxxxx Cxxxxx: Is there something I'm missing about these photos?
[15:09] Axxx Dxxxxx: No, just me being tired and hitting the wrong IM box
[15:10] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): I mean, we can make an educated guess that [Axxx]'s trying to warn her friend in some fashion, but beyond that? No, nothing there to miss, [Vxxxx].
[15:10] txxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Jesus, what is this conversation O_O
[15:10] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Amusing?
[15:11] Axxx Dxxxxx: A big mistake on my part. An accident gone wrong.
And the chat fell silent at this point. I shrugged and went back to arranging furniture, until:
[15:12] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Ah, so your friend did not agree.
[15:17] lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: we all make copy/paste mistakes when we aren't really paying attention, it's okay
[15:17] lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but really, kudos to the well made photos on that flickr
[15:17] Emilly Shatner-Orr (emilly.orr): Mmhmm.
[16:01] Mxxxxxx Mxxxxxxxxxx: Anyone know any good mesh NPC figures
And I fell down laughing, as chat went dead for the second time. I mean, thanks for the caution, Ms. A, but yes, you're right, you are absolutely the last one who should say this today, considering you linked a Flickr page with full-on penetration.
[16:09] Axxxxxx Wxxxxxxx: Studio Dire
[16:09] Axxxxxx Wxxxxxxx: They have a lot of neat stuff
[16:10] Mxxxxxx Mxxxxxxxxxx: They have an inworld store or MP?
[16:12] Axxxxxx Wxxxxxxx: https://marketplace.secondlife.com/stores/29387 Idk if their mp is up to date or not. You can find all their stuff in world too
[16:14] Axxx Dxxxxx: I know I am the last person whos should say this today, but no links in chat. Please share them in IM.
[16:14] Axxxxxx Wxxxxxxx: ah sorry!
I'm still terribly amused.
you think I only think about you when we're both in the same room
Names anonymized to protect the guilty (grins), but name of the store left in:
[10:15] ixxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hey Debauchery. Would you ever consider making an Adult Yoga mat with th inclusion of Yoda animations?
How'ver, I wanted to talk about something else. The gyrocopter.
[10:15] ixxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: *Yoga
[10:16] Cxxxxxx Fxxx: Yoda positions!!! That totally put all kinds of crazy images in my head.
[10:16] ixxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It was a typo
[10:16] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxxx: Sex you will :)
[10:16] Cxxxxxx Fxxx: ha!
[10:17] Cxxxxxx Fxxx: Yes, it was obviously a typo, but it was an amazing typo!
[10:17] cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: lol
[10:21] Jxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: the kamasutra you still have to learn young sexling
I took these pics months ago--anyone who's been to Gearhaven in the intervening time knows the terrain's changed a bit, and we've gone to non-mesh surround fragments. But Dejah built the gyrocopter.
They also built New Alexandria from the ground up. And did a stellar job. It's phenomenal.
But this is neat, too. They actually put a winged angel hood ornament on the front of it! (Sadly, yes, the only pick that came out of the ornament head-on, when the building was unrezzed. Rats.)
We'd circled around the entire city by this point. (I'm the one with blue hair in the back, btw--Dejah's the one in the pilot seat.)
And landing.
I honestly don't know if Dejah plans to sell this one anywhere, but if you're curious, the legacy name is Deebrane String. It's just...perfect.
the world's a little blurry, or maybe it's my eyes
I'm turning over this entry almost entirely to Amanda Palmer. This is from her latest Patreon entry:right now, if you are in Ukraine, please know that we are sending all our love.
i am sure that all of you - my patrons, who are People of the Internet - are all already inundated with news, stories, and harrowing, unforgettable images from the senseless destruction of life, property and peace over there.
we are just a little community of 10,000 or so people.
i have been wondering: what can we do?
i could make the usual speeches and send you links to the red cross and the UNHCR and hope for the best, as we watch our checkbooks flow to the larger and more established aid and relief charities. but then i thought about gaba.
(Editrix insert: This is Gaba Kulka. She's a friend of AFP's who lives in Poland. She'll explain below.)
gaba kulka is one of my old-school touring musician friends. she lives in poland and we have kept up with each other - on stages, in person, on the internet - for a very long time.
So I looked up her music on YouTube. This one came up. I don't speak Polish, so Google Translate it is, and I don't think it translates accurately, but I get the gist, I think:My ambiguities
I hear a lot of Amanda energy in that song. I can see why they're friends, I think. This was off her 2009 album, "Hat, Rabbit".
instead of explaining, they became permanent
you ask if it's good
ask another time
I'm too busy
I try not to make a mistake
You don't pick up rice from the street when it's sprinkled once
the damn pigeons had eaten everything up, only dust and limescale
why everything is so simple is so simple
it's as simple as that until it happens to you
Your doubts
they will always stay on this topic
no belonging
when I want to gain one, I lose the other
I will lull my vigilance
maybe it will stop bothering me like that
overabundance
when I cannot love, I have no way to cheat
You don't pick up rice from the street when it's sprinkled once
the damn pigeons had eaten everything up, only dust and limescale
why everything is so simple is so simple
it's as simple as that until it happens to you
My ambiguities and
your ambiguities
overlap
Maybe it will be alright
she writer crazy-intelligent punk-cabaret-type songs, speaks better [f*cking] english than i do even thought it's her second language, and has a daughter, matylda, who is almost exactly ash's age.
she and i have been comparing notes as musician-moms since the babies came. we've had a beautiful, slowly flowering friendship, and i treasure her. we have phoned each other every couple of months since the pandemic started, and checked in on one another's mental health. we joke with each other. we mourn with each other. we compare notes about our weird kids.
here we are, performing and hanging out together in 2012:
This was probably around the time Amanda was recording with the Grand Theft Orchestra.
This picture makes me giggle. AFP with her usual mugging for the camera, and Kulka with the long-suffering expression, but that hint of a smile.
i have been listening to the pain in gaba's voice about the political situation over there.
I looked up Fundacja Ocalenie on Charity Navigator. They tend to judge their reviewed charities harshly, but considering none of us want to be scammed, and we can't all fly over and ask to see the public books of every international effort out there, I trust the work they do. They give them four stars, which in my judgement is kind of amazing--I've listed as worthy charitable efforts on the sidebar charities that come in at 3.5.
so when the invasion of ukraine happened, i called her.
she told me that she and her husband were literally at the supermarket, buying nappies, buckwheat and other simple supplies for the refugees that were flooding into poland. she told me that friends in the neighborhood were converting their homes into apartments to house the people landing on their doorsteps. [f*ck].
my first reaction was to want to cover her grocery bill. and to ask her if those friends needed cash. to to ask if we could send her money, to spend on these immediate issues in her neighborhood. but she's one person, and a busy mom, not a [f*cking] charity. i could not ask her to do this.
so i took a deep breath and asked her what, very specifically, we could do to help.
us. right here and now.
this community: what could WE do to help?
after thinking about it for a week, this is what she wrote:Ever since the Russian army's aggression on Ukraine, Polish people started mobilising at every level to help our eastern neighbours, and that feels like a beacon of hope in this grim time.
But even though the countless, grassroots efforts have been uplifting, they have also been really hard to get my head around, and this fragmentation has become an increasing problem - it may feel overwhelming right now, to find the exact right place where you should put your energy and money.
What we need is better communication, and a more centralized system of support for people affected by this war.
That's why my first thought went to nonprofits that I'd already known for years, who already have the know-how - most of all Fundacja Ocalenie, who has been working with and providing help to refugees in Poland for many years.
Luckily some people have it together, and know that combining efforts is the way to go: There is a huge fundraiser, Together For Ukraine:
https://zrzutka.pl/en/razemdlaukrainy
It is based on one of the largest fundraising platforms in Poland.
The organizations benefiting from the fundraiser include Fundacja Ocalenie, Polskie Forum Migracyjne, Homo Faber, Fundacja Dialog and many more.
They post frequent and helpful updates documenting how some of the funds are already put to use.
As an addition: if someone likes to know very precisely what their money buys. Here are two verified fundraisers that gather money for 1) tactical first aid kits https://zrzutka.pl/dlaukrainy and 2) bulletproof vests and helmets https://zrzutka.pl/pomocukrainie The links come from the Euromaidan-Warszawa organisation, which has been active since 2013.
Please consider supporting them.
Anyway, back to Amanda:.........
I didn't donate because I want the praise and love. I am not well off, RL. (This is not a secret.) Hells, I'm not even moderately okay RL, financially. And what I donated--five flat plus the processing fee so the charity effort didn't have to front it, which came, ultimately, to a bit over ten--is not their recommended mid-range of 70 zloty, which works out to about sixteen USD. But I had to help.
I really trust Gaba, and I hope you trust who I trust, so please consider sending your money over in that direction. I just donated $500.
Like I said above, even if you can only donate $10, it will mean a great deal to the cause that you took the time to do it, and it will send a message of people-power.
If you donate, leave us a comment here, and we will praise and love you.
...............
The rest of the Patreon was her thanking her fans, wishing us love and strength, and the never-ending end-of-all-posts tag with all her social media. The only thing about her words I changed was censoring [f*ck] a little, because I still try not to curse on the wee blog. This was the important message, though.
and another thing, and possibly even more important....for a more sustainable future in the NEWS department:
THE KYIV INDEPENDENT is on Patreon - one of the only independent media outlets in the country. I supported them last week and I cannot tell you how good it feels to be able to know that my dollars are literally keeping real, honest journalism funded in ukraine.
this is a super powerful place to put your money, and you can become a patron for a dollar. even if you've been cutting back on patronage lately (and i know there's been a lot of belt-tightening lately), this is different.
this is revolutionary beyonf art and music. this is giving funding, a voice, a megaphone to a press that really, really needs the support.
i became the 3,249th patron last week....they are are now up to OVER 6,000 PATRONS, bringing in about $67,914/month. it's amazing.
the newspaper is in ENGLISH. your funding will help then with bills, internet access, office costs, reportage, security, translators, photographers....you name it.....everything you can imagine. this is incredible.
PEOPLE. POWER!!!!!!!!
please become a patron of these guys alongside me:
https://www.patreon.com/kyivindependent
When I get up tomorrow--it's late--I'll code up a graphic and slap this fundraising effort into the sidebar. (Under Zen, of course. Priorities. But it'll be there when I get it done.)
And...that's it. Hang in there, people. Give if you can to a country that's being pounded into dust because Putin was left alone in the archives too long and decided he needed Ukraine 'back'. They are shelling schools. They are shelling hospitals. They are deliberately killing children. They are using thermobaric weapons and petal mines (and believe me, the irony of Russia using a weapon that they reverse-engineered from a US design we used in Viet Nam, which was based on an earlier, larger Luftwaffe one does NOT escape me). We need to help.
So help if you can. I try to avoid politics on the blog, there's enough drama on the grid, but...this was necessary. If you can at all spare it, donate. Ukraine needs everyone's aid to get through this.
I'm packing up my things and I'm wiping down the walls
Nothing on this is going to be anonymized, it's too ridiculous.
Ethelred Dehaven (gtphzuqehnzarkayakers@hotmail.com)
Of course it's a Hotmail address.
9:46 AM (1 hour ago)
I doubt that...
to [me]
{real name},
Hello my name is Ethelred Dehaven,We tried to contact you at your home and did not hear back.
I doubt that, too.
It looks like your student loan may be eligible for the recent stimulus forgiveness and relief legislation (Cares Act), however your application does need to be completed.
It doesn't actually. I have no outstanding student loans to forgive.
This applies to all loan statuses including those loans in default and garnishment.
Good? Still doesn't apply to me.
If you could please give your dedicated eligibility line a call at: 888-7∙∙31∙9065
This is not a number. But it definitely is a scam number.
and we can have this applied immediately.
I doubt this, too.
Please be aware that these benefits come on a first come first serve basis though.
Oh, I'm sure of that. I'm just wondering what the grift is. We call in, and we're told, so sorry, your application didn't go through, it will just be a $50 fee to resubmit?
Please make sure to provide your personal validation code #34363.
My "personal code"? Oh, you're so gracious.
Our office hours are 8am-5pm (PST) Monday-Friday. Thank You, Ethelred Dehaven
And what a name. I'm wondering if a spiderbot just grabbed it from random Google books uploaded to the net.
If you do not have student loans, please ignore this message.
Oh, don't worry. I will.
Distributed by...Marketing Services, PO Box 249 #57223, Albuquerque, New Mexico 87103 .......
I doubt that, too, but that does come up on another scam note, so there's that.
we do not provide any other service except for advertising. If you have a concern regarding a product or service please contact that company directly using the phone number above............ to be removed from future advertisements type in 'no-more-ads.com' in your browser and enter your email address
Which...would give you the email address as a confirmed active point. Pass.
'emilly.orr@gmail.com'............................................ZW1pbGx5Lm9yckBnbWFpbC5jb20=
And I have no idea what this last bit means.
But this blog has been in stasis TOO long and that needs to change. That, I do know.