we would sing and dance around, because we know we can't be found (part 2)

(Picking up from the first part:)

[12:55] Emilly Orr: Tastes too good to have rotted, so I vote for alcohol.
[12:58] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hundegutt, go ask Master [Cxxx] if he desires a drink.
[13:00] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: Master [Cxxx]
[13:00] Cxxx Mxx: Yes?
[13:01] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: would Master [Cxxx] enjoy a drink now form this hundergutt
[13:01] Cxxx Mxx: Ale if you would
[13:02] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: yes Master [Cxxx]

He went off and got the ale, and brought it back, and handed it over, and things seemed to be going fine...

[13:04] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: this is your Ale Mr [Cxxx]
[13:05] Cxxx Mxx: Thank you.

...and then he sat on the floor, staring worshipfully up at the DJ. Back to wanting to slap some sense into the boi.

[13:05] Sxxxxxx Rxxxx smiles up at Thor, sprawled on the floor

[Sxxxxxx], at least, was dancing, and had a reason to be on the grass by [Txxx].

[13:05] Cxxx Mxx accepts the ale and takes a swallow
[13:05] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx grins.. watching [Sxxxxxx] dancing
[13:06] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: watches Master [Cxxx] drink and sip his ale
[13:06] Sxxxxxx Rxxxx wraps her hand around the back of [Txxx]'s knee using him for the leverage to stand
[13:06] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: this slave hundegutt hopes that Master [Cxxx] likes his ale
[13:07] Emilly Orr peers over, ponders, and finally sighs.
[13:07] Emilly Orr: Even thralls in this land are strong, Hundegutt.
[13:07] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx looks at Hundegutt
[13:08] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Get back to work, worthless boy!
[13:10] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: worthless boy gets back to work

Better than him sitting at the DJ's feet, waiting for a scrap of any kind of attention.

[13:10] Emilly Orr watches the sheep fly away and wonders if there's something in the water.
[13:10] Emilly Orr: Oh, good, you're back.
[13:11] Cxxx Mxx: Just keeping him away from the fire

Seriously, at that moment, the sheep literally just floated off into the ether, spun around in the sky, then *poof* sheep was back on the ground. Weirdness.

[13:11] Emilly Orr: Oh, was being gently teased about not being at their event in another group, and I was saying I'd have to change out of Viking if I left. Someone IMed me, saying she loves 'historical RP". I tossed her the welcome center lm.
[13:13] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well done

Because, as has been said, we're still trying to grow the sim.

[13:13] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx wanders over to the bar area and refills his horn, turning back, he raises his horn "Thank you for your hospitality Jarl [Txxx] skál"
[13:13] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: worthless boy watches
[13:14] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Welcome [Vxxxxxx], King of Birka
[13:14] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and Lady [Sxxxx]
[13:14] Vxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxxxx: thank you!
[13:14] Emilly Orr: Welcome to you both
[13:14] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: welcome to the home of Jarl [Rxxxxxxxxx] Master [Vxxxxxx]

I don't know if it'll show up in the published blog, but the spacing in chat was just strange with [ala]'s lines, and seemed to have no earthly purpose I could understand.

[13:14] Sxxxxxx Rxxxx smiles at the newcomer who brushed against her
[13:14] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There are dance balls over the fire
[13:14] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and in the floor
[13:14] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx waves to [Vxxxxxx] "Heilsa [Vxxxxxx], how are you?"
[13:16] Vxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxxxx: Verið heilir everyone! thanks all for the welcomes!
[13:16] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hundegutt you can still dance too
[13:17] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: Hundegutt thanks my holy my Jarl

Gaaaaah.

At this point, because we had new people, I moved over to one side, closer to [axx], to give them room.

[13:20] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: welcome miss Emily
[13:21] Emilly Orr looks over her shoulder and smiles.
[13:21] Emilly Orr: I have been here since before this dance began, Hundegutt.
[13:22] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: yes i do remember yes so sorry

I won't lie, it was making me twitch, the utter, craven, I-have-no-personality-I-am-just-holes-to-use submissiveness.

[13:22] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Be strict with him

I was trying.

[13:22] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Veridh heillir!
[13:22] Emilly Orr: You also do not need to apologize unless you actually do a wrong to one of us.
[13:22] KA Bouncing Sheep Tip Jar: ŢĥɑʼnĶ ŶδŲ Ŧδɍ ţɦȼ ℒiʼnɗȼʼn ℒℴѵℯ [Sxxxxxx Rxxxx] , îţ îş ℳücĥ Ѧρρяєcîɑţєɗ, ℳÜ∀Ħ ҳღҳღ ;)
[13:23] Cxxx Mxx: Thank you [Sxxxxxx]!
[13:23] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: yes Miss Emilly it understands . it will try not to do anything wrong .....and be good boy
[13:23] Emilly Orr growls.
[13:23] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Welcome, [Bxxxxxx]
[13:23] Emilly Orr: You are not an IT.
[13:24] Sypha (syphabelmont): Vertu Heil, [Bxx]!
[13:24] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hello [Txxxxxxx]
[13:24] Emilly Orr: Welcome, [Bxxxxxx]!
[13:24] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hello [Sxxxx]!
[13:24] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx waves "Heilsa [Bxxxxxx]"
[13:24] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: so sorry Emily if I said a wrong thing
[13:24] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Welcome to Thorvaldshavn, [Bxxxxxx]
[13:25] Vxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxxxx: vertu heil [Bxxxxxx]!
[13:25] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Heil [Vxxxxxx]
[13:25] Cxxx Mxx: Welcome [Bxxxxxx]
[13:25] Emilly Orr sighs a bit.
[13:25] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx whispers: Heilsa [Cxxx]!
[13:26] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Heilsa [Cxxx]!
[13:26] Emilly Orr: You come from a different place, and all cultures should be honored. But here, we are people of the land, of the gods, strong with the forging of the seasons. We are not "it". Not even our livestock we refer to as "it".
[13:27] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx smiles at Emilly, nodding with approval
[13:27] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: "Listen and learn, Hundegutt.."
[13:27] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: yes Emily hundergutt understands
[13:28] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: all life is important
[13:28] Emilly Orr: Good. You are allowed to be a person, here. You are a person.
[13:28] Emilly Orr: Yes.

I was trying, very hard, to keep on the near side of the line of 'instructive criticism', over 'sneering contempt for humiliation's sake', because...I didn't want to help with that. It's not healthy.

[13:28] Emilly Orr: I'm trying, I so want to be snarky. :)
[13:28] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I understand... he yearns for attention..
[13:29] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I kind of feel sorry in a way for him

Me too. Which again, isn't a feeling--at least in me--that brings on major sexy times. Pity just makes me want to wrap [axx] up in a blanket, and offer some hot chocolate, and then go far, far away and never return. Not exactly the best reaction.

[13:29] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Chuckles and pets [Vxxxxxx]'s beard. "- Didn't know you're so great dancer, my King!"
[13:30] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: a person yes a person thank you Emily
[13:30] Emilly Orr smiles

Did I smile because I think [axx] really understood? No, that was one of my social, I-don't-know-what-else-to-say smiles.

[13:31] Emilly Orr: Profile paints something pretty dark. Started off as female, slapped into Gor, then slapped into a BBC club, it sounds like, where he was just another little white slut for black guys.
[13:34] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yes, true
[13:36] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: he craves the attention and won't stop putting himself down
[13:36] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: we work around it

And that's the hard part. Look, I am not kink-shaming here. We all get turned on, some of us get turned on by specifics, as long as it's not hurting anyone who's not on board with being hurt, great, fine, go have fun. But. Seeking self-damage goes into the category of "direct harm". And when it's someone seeking to be humiliated, damaged, demeaned, because they think they deserve it, because they really, truly think they're worthless...yeah, that's abusive. Even if they're abusing themselves, it's not right.

Later:

[13:37] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Everyone welcome our friends from Birka, once more
[13:37] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: extend our best hospitality
[13:37] Vxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxxxx: thank you thank you!
[13:37] Emilly Orr: We are honored that you join us in the dance.
[13:38] Cxxx Mxx: Thanks You [Vxxxxxx]!
[13:38] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Remember that Master [Cxxx] works for tips..
[13:38] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: be generous

All DJs do, and all DJs appreciate being tipped for their work. It's not easy.

[13:39] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Thank you all for the kindness! It is a really good dance. Having so much fun!
[13:39] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: welcome to all friends from Birka............. warm welcome to friends of Birka
[13:39] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You're all welcome and welcome to visit our land
[13:39] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Thank you all very much!
[13:41] Emilly Orr: I need to visit the other sims again. I only briefly wandered through.
[13:42] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Jarl [Axxxxxx] is from Viborg.
[13:43] Emilly Orr: Let's see, I know how to get to Gottland, Midgard, Fyn Island, Thingvellir, Dirdal....I'll have to add Birka to the list, then!
[13:44] Emilly Orr: Good thing my Thane owns a ship. :D
[13:44] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: We have a few landmarks to add to our LM giver in the Welcome Center
[13:44] Emilly Orr nods.
[13:44] Emilly Orr: Very good idea.
[13:44] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You're all welcome to visit us in Birka anytime!
[13:44] Emilly Orr: I need to make sure I have the welcome center landmark right, since it moved a bit. And will have to do that all again this winter. :)

He passed me the landmark to Birka.

[13:44] Emilly Orr: Thank you!
[13:45] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx nods
[13:45] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Thank you, Lady [Sxxxx]
[13:45] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: thank you Mistress [Sxxxx]
[13:45] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx smiles
[13:45] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx "Have all the Jarls seen the Bifrost yet?"
[13:45] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I'm sure King [Vxxxxxx] would be very happy. :)
[13:46] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Nei, not yet
[13:46] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: it is impressive work
[13:46] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: links all the sims
[13:46] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes, I saw it
[13:46] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes
[13:46] KA Bouncing Sheep Tip Jar: Right click and select 'Pay' to tip.
(All funds go to your Host [Cxxx Mxx])
[13:46] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: it's a great Idea should generate traffic for everyone
[13:47] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Sure thing.
[13:47] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I love that name, "Bifrost"
[13:47] KA Bouncing Sheep Tip Jar: ŢĥɑʼnĶ ŶδŲ Ŧδɍ ţɦȼ ℒiʼnɗȼʼn ℒℴѵℯ [Txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx] , îţ îş ℳücĥ Ѧρρяєcîɑţєɗ, ℳÜ∀Ħ ҳღҳღ ;)
[13:47] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Rainbow Bridge in Asgaard
[13:47] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: the gate in asgard between worlds aye
[13:47] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Also the aurora borealis
[13:48] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx nods

All I'm finding so far is a Bifrost hub group, which is currently invite-only. I may ask for an invite, if I can find a group to ditch, but for right now, it's not an actual place, it seems.

[13:48] Cxxx Mxx: Thanks [Bxxxxxxx]!
[13:48] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: slave Hundegutt listens to the important ones
[13:48] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: NP [Cxxx]!
[13:48] Emilly Orr: Always good.

A bit later on:

[13:56] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Knowledge is powerful, more than money. I also think, as the advice you asked, you must observe more. You can learn lots from nature and people just by observing and meditating on it.
[13:56] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ((Sorry!!! Wrong chat))
[13:56] Emilly Orr: But true, nonetheless.
[13:57] txxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Very!
[13:57] axxxxxxxx Axxxx: [axxxxxxxx pxx] is going to take leave now
[13:57] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: you may go, [axx]
[13:57] Emilly Orr: Enjoy the rest of your day, [axx].

Two new arrivals fell in then:

[13:59] rxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Velkommen, [Vxxxxxxx] and [kxxxxxxx]
[13:59] Emilly Orr: Welcome, [Kxxxxx], [Vxxxxxxx]!
[14:00] kxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Heilsa everyone
[14:00] axxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx smiles "Heilsa [Vxx], heilsa [kxxxxxxx], how are you both?"
[14:00] Vxxxxxxx Mxxxxxxxxx whispers: Heilsa, everyone

See, that's more what we're used to.