Sunday, March 24, 2019

the hidden blade when you pretend that you don't even know my name, well played

Some days, you get all kinds. And some nights, I get really confused and irritated.
[22:39] Nxxxx Nxxxx: hi
[22:39] Emilly Orr: Hello there!
Random hi's from strangers bug me. State yer case or on yer bike. But I try to be pleasant and at least hear why they're reaching out.

Also, I have no idea who she is.
[22:39] Nxxxx Nxxxx: wondrng do we l know each other
It's "wondering". And "do we 1 know" is really bad sentence construction.
[22:40] Emilly Orr: Not as far as I know
[22:40] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok hmmm are you into stockings
I pulled her profile at this point. Ton of wrestling and nylons groups, including one that started with "Bully [B*tches]". I'm willing to indulge in foot worship sessions if a client requests it, but outside of a visit to a random footplay sim to see if I could figure out the draw, it's never been an interest.
[22:40] Emilly Orr: I like wearing them.
[22:41] Nxxxx Nxxxx: in sl
[22:41] Emilly Orr: I like wearing them? They're not a fetish point for me.
How was that not an answer the first time?
[22:42] Nxxxx Nxxxx: oh ok do you have he older ones
She means "the", I'm pretty sure.
[22:42] Emilly Orr: What older ones?
That is vague as hell.
[22:42] Nxxxx Nxxxx: vintage th full fashioned ones
[22:43] Nxxxx Nxxxx: do you cat fight
What?
[22:44] Emilly Orr: 1. Sometimes, if I can find a good seamed pair.
[22:44] Emilly Orr: 2. Hell no.
Thought that would also be a simple answer, but...And even though I kind of knew it was coming, it did make my lip curl a bit. What, her joy is reaching out to random strangers to pant over her love of nylons and hurting girls? Is this fun for her?
[22:45] Nxxxx Nxxxx: got them so do i do you have any now
Who was she asking, me or her? Because the "do i do you" is beyond confusing.
[22:46] Emilly Orr: I think a few? Mostly in black. Couple pairs in other colors.
I was not about to go count, I seriously didn't care enough.
[22:46] Emilly Orr: Why?
[22:47] Nxxxx Nxxxx: full fashiond ones
[22:47] Emilly Orr: Full or old fashioned, do you mean?
[22:47] Nxxxx Nxxxx: both no 9 axiennes
[22:48] Emilly Orr: I didn't get that. Axiennes?
[22:48] Nxxxx Nxxxx: yes
That's not an answer.
[22:48] Emilly Orr: Okay, let me restate. What are 9 Axiennes?
[22:49] Nxxxx Nxxxx: thee stockings
Pretty sure it's "the" again.
[22:49] Emilly Orr: Brand doesn't sound familiar.
[22:50] Nxxxx Nxxxx: hmm what about no 9
[22:50] Emilly Orr: Oh, those were two brands?
[22:50] Emilly Orr: Don't recognize either.
So, I went looking, and this is No 9, and I failed completely on finding Axiennes on Marketplace, so if I care enough, I'll see if I can find Axiennes in world tomorrow. Probably won't bother.

Some time passed, then...
[23:01] Nxxxx Nxxxx: what you layer
[23:01] Emilly Orr: What?
Seriously, I don't know what that means.
[23:03] Nxxxx Nxxxx: do you evr layer your hose
It's "ever".
[23:05] Emilly Orr: Not since I moved to a mesh body.
And I'm not sure I ever layered stockings over other stockings when I was in a system body. I may have, once or twice, worn a tattoo layer on the legs then stockings over that, but...I'm not sure that's what she means.
[23:05] Nxxxx Nxxxx: dam hm and you cant wear your no 9 either
[23:05] Emilly Orr: I don't have no 9 anything
[23:06] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok or axiennes
[23:06] Emilly Orr: Did I not say I don't have either? I seriously don't. Never heard of either of them.
What is her issue, here?
[23:07] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok ok girl
[23:07] Emilly Orr: I don't understand anything about this conversation.
I really didn't.
Another long pause, then:
[23:20] Nxxxx Nxxxx: its ok hunni'
"Hunni". Sure.
[23:21] Emilly Orr: If you say so.
[23:22] Nxxxx Nxxxx: we were talking about our stockings
She was, I was just trying to figure out why.
[23:22] Emilly Orr: I know. I don't get the rest of it. Or the start of it. Have we ever talked before? Because I had no chat history.
Truth. I generally have a few lines from the last conversation, whether it's been a couple days or a couple months or a couple years. I had nothing when she IMed me.
[23:23] Nxxxx Nxxxx: no i not so sure
Did she mean "Now I'm not so sure" or "No, I'm not so sure"? Do I care enough to ask? Probably not.
[23:23] Nxxxx Nxxxx: see you beeen around
I have no idea what "beeen" means here.
[23:24] Emilly Orr: Okay.
I'm beginning to think English is not her first language.
[23:25] Nxxxx Nxxxx: might have been fun
For which one of us? Because I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be me.
[23:25] Emilly Orr: Okay.
[23:26] Nxxxx Nxxxx: in our seamed stockings
[23:26] Emilly Orr: Sure.
Lady, just take the hint and take off. Also, did she just blow by the past where I said stockings and nylons are not my fetish? And that wrestling with someone who's determined to beat me up isn't either?
[23:26] Nxxxx Nxxxx: yea got any on now
[23:26] Emilly Orr: No.
[23:27] Nxxxx Nxxxx: any at all
[23:28] Emilly Orr: I am completely and utterly naked save for my anklet, my belly chain, and my collar. Is there anything else?
[23:28] Nxxxx Nxxxx: not any more
[23:28] Emilly Orr: Then good day.
I thought that would be the end of it, I honestly did. I was *this* close to abandoning all decorum and just screaming at her, then blocking her.
[23:28] Nxxxx Nxxxx: be nice ok
Why?
[23:29] Emilly Orr: I have been trying, but I am not about to let you beat me up, I'm not interested in nylons, and I have never heard of either of the stocking brands you mention, so I'm confused on what's left to discuss.
[23:30] Nxxxx Nxxxx: wht do you mean by cheating you up
[23:30] Emilly Orr: Beating. Beating me up. I don't wrestle, and I especially don't wrestle with someone who says she won't hold back.
[23:31] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok ok
Are we done? Jesus Christ.

But that seemed to be the end of it; after that she stopped bugging me. Thank the gods. I logged out as soon as I could after that.

Scenes from a Chat: Fetishy Weirdness edition

Some days, you get all kinds. And some nights, I get really confused and irritated.
[22:39] Nxxxx Nxxxx: hi
[22:39] Emilly Orr: Hello there!
Random hi's from strangers bug me. State yer case or on yer bike. But I try to be pleasant and at least hear why they're reaching out.

I have no idea who she is.
[22:39] Nxxxx Nxxxx: wondrng do we l know each other
It's "wondering". And "do we 1 know" is really bad sentence construction.
[22:40] Emilly Orr: Not as far as I know.
[22:40] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok hmmm are you into stockings
I pulled her profile at this point. Ton of wrestling and nylons groups, including one that started with "Bully [B*tches]". I'm willing to indulge in foot worship sessions if a client requests it, but outside of a visit to a random footplay sim to see if I could figure out the draw, it's never been a personal interest.
[22:40] Emilly Orr: I like wearing them.
[22:41] Nxxxx Nxxxx: in sl
[22:41] Emilly Orr: I like wearing them? They're not a fetish point for me.
How was that not an answer the first time?
[22:42] Nxxxx Nxxxx: oh ok do you have he older ones
She means "the", I'm pretty sure.
[22:42] Emilly Orr: What older ones?
That is vague as hell.
[22:42] Nxxxx Nxxxx: vintage th full fashioned ones
"The", again.
[22:43] Nxxxx Nxxxx: do you cat fight
Beg pardon?
[22:44] Emilly Orr: 1. Sometimes, if I can find a good seamed pair.
[22:44] Emilly Orr: 2. Hell no.
Thought that would also be a simple answer, but...And even though I kind of knew it was coming, it did make my lip curl a bit. What, her joy is reaching out to random strangers to pant over her love of nylons and hurting girls? Is this fun for her?
 
And do keep in mind, I'm not kink-shaming here. It's not my kink, but there's a lot of folks who have this kink. No, I'm very willingly shaming her for randomly IMing someone she's never met to try to get a date.
[22:45] Nxxxx Nxxxx: got them so do i do you have any now
[22:46] Emilly Orr: I think a few? Mostly in black. Couple pairs in other colors.
I was not about to go count, I seriously didn't care enough.
[22:46] Emilly Orr: Why?
[22:47] Nxxxx Nxxxx: full fashiond ones
[22:47] Emilly Orr: Full or old fashioned, do you mean?
[22:47] Nxxxx Nxxxx: both no 9 axiennes
[22:48] Emilly Orr: I didn't get that. Axiennes?
[22:48] Nxxxx Nxxxx: yes
That's not an answer. What is the POINT of this conversation?
[22:48] Emilly Orr: Okay, let me restate. What are 9 Axiennes?
[22:49] Nxxxx Nxxxx: thee stockings
Pretty sure it's "the" again.
[22:49] Emilly Orr: Brand doesn't sound familiar.
[22:50] Nxxxx Nxxxx: hmm what about no 9
[22:50] Emilly Orr: Oh, those were two brands?
[22:50] Emilly Orr: Don't recognize either.
So, I went looking, and this is No 9, and I failed completely on finding Axiennes on Marketplace, so if I care enough, I'll see if I can find Axiennes in world tomorrow. Probably won't bother.

Some time passed, then...
[23:01] Nxxxx Nxxxx: what you layer
[23:01] Emilly Orr: What?
Seriously, I don't know what that means.
[23:03] Nxxxx Nxxxx: do you evr layer your hose
It's "ever". And again, what?
[23:05] Emilly Orr: Not since I moved to a mesh body.
And I'm not sure I ever layered stockings over other stockings when I was in a system body. I may have, once or twice, worn a tattoo layer on the legs then stockings over them, but...I'm not sure that's what she means.
[23:05] Nxxxx Nxxxx: dam hm and you cant wear your no 9 either
[23:05] Emilly Orr: I don't have no 9 anything
[23:06] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok or axiennes
[23:06] Emilly Orr: Did I not say I don't have either? I seriously don't. Never heard of either of them.
What is her issue, here?
[23:07] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok ok girl
[23:07] Emilly Orr: I don't understand anything about this conversation.
I really didn't.

Another long pause, then:
[23:20] Nxxxx Nxxxx: its ok hunni'
"Hunni". Sure.
[23:21] Emilly Orr: If you say so.
[23:22] Nxxxx Nxxxx: we were talking about our stockings
She was, I was just trying to figure out why.
[23:22] Emilly Orr: I know. I don't get the rest of it. Or the start of it. Have we ever talked before? Because I had no chat history.
Truth. I generally have a few lines from the last conversation, whether it's been a couple days or a couple months or a couple years. I had nothing when she IMed me.
[23:23] Nxxxx Nxxxx: no i not so sure
Did she mean "Now I'm not so sure" or "No, I'm not so sure"? Do I care enough to ask? I do not.
[23:23] Nxxxx Nxxxx: see you beeen around
I have no idea what "beeen" means here.
[23:24] Emilly Orr: Okay.
I'm beginning to think English is not her first language.
[23:25] Nxxxx Nxxxx: might have been fun
[23:25] Emilly Orr: Okay.
[23:26] Nxxxx Nxxxx: in our seamed stockings
[23:26] Emilly Orr: Sure.
Lady, just take the hint and take off. Also, did she just blow by the past where I said stockings and nylons are not my fetish? And that wrestling with someone who's determined to beat me up isn't either?
[23:26] Nxxxx Nxxxx: yea got any on now
[23:26] Emilly Orr: No.
[23:27] Nxxxx Nxxxx: any at all
[23:28] Emilly Orr: I am completely and utterly naked save for my anklet, my belly chain, and my collar. Is there anything else?
[23:28] Nxxxx Nxxxx: not any more
[23:28] Emilly Orr: Then good day.
I thought that would be the end of it.
[23:28] Nxxxx Nxxxx: be nice ok
[23:29] Emilly Orr: I have been trying, but I am not about to let you beat me up, I'm not interested in nylons, and I have never heard of either of the stocking brands you mention, so I'm confused on what's left to discuss.
[23:30] Nxxxx Nxxxx: wht do you mean by cheating you up
It's "what".
[23:30] Emilly Orr: Beating. Beating me up. I don't wrestle, and I especially don't wrestle with someone who says she won't hold back.
[23:31] Nxxxx Nxxxx: ok ok
Are we done? Jesus Christ.

But that seemed to be the end of it; after that she stopped bugging me. Thank the gods. I logged out as soon as I could after that.

Friday, March 22, 2019

but I opened up my wound, now my force depends on you

This is amazing, and, even though many of the models are in bodysuits to imitate the paintings more perfectly, I'd say they'd still qualify as NSFW. (Some people apparently are being asked to join that site, so this site doesn't ask people to join, and also has another couple of shots of the artwork.

"If you don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you".

I wish I could track down who said this; I found it on a random profile, and wanted to find who said it, and Google search just shrugged.

It did find me some other good quotes, though.

"The human race tends to remember the abuses to which it has been subjected rather than the endearments. What's left of kisses? Wounds, however, leave scars."
~Bertolt Brecht


"You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them."
~Iyanla Vanzant, from Yesterday, I Cried


"Some memories never heal. Rather than fading with the passage of time, those memories become the only things that are left behind when all else is abraded. The world darkens, like electric bulbs going out one by one. I am aware that I am not a safe person."
~Han Kang, from Human Acts


"Hold her a little tighter, she's an introvert, she needs strength to open her wounds."
~Nitya Prakash


"We have to outgrow history. History is what keeps all the old wounds and grievances alive."
<~Marty Rubin


"She couldn't believe she had told him. Now she would forever be a broken pot in his eyes. And yet, speaking those words last night had been like digging shrapnel out of her flesh. She was sore, but the piercing weight of the deeply lodged shards was gone. The relief was indescribable."
~Sonali Dev, from A Change of Heart


"Every person is driven to self-deceive, simply to get out of the discomfort of the truth. The best relationships are with people who will not let you be blind. They reveal your hidden strengths and your concealed wounds."
~Vironika Tugaleva


"She wondered which wounds went deeper: the jagged wounds of reality, or the profound invisible bruises of the imagination?"
~Vita Sackville-West


"There's some wounds that run too deep to be seen. They're the most dangerous."
~Moira Young, from Rebel Heart


"Nothing supernatural has ever harmed me. My wounds and losses have all be at the hands of human beings..."
Dean Koontz, from Brother Odd


"If you keep picking at that scab on your heart, it won't heal."
~Antonia Perdu


"Stop holding on to the broken pieces of that mirror even after you are bleeding so badly, I agree that the reflections you had imagined or saw once before were beautiful but sometimes holding on to them with a hope will just continue to hurt you even more and it will never get any better."
~Akshay Vasu


"Art is the magical act of one bleeding heart healing another."
~Akash Mandal



~Akshay Vasu, from The Abandoned Paradise: Unraveling the beauty of untouched thoughts and dreams


"We're not getting out of this unscathed. You play with blades, somebody's gonna get cut. Sometimes, everybody bleeds."
~Bunn Cullen


"In the middle of the night, I saw chaos bleeding out of darkness and peace. Everything that was said and seen before seemed like a paradox. I saw the graves of lies breaking open and the truth crawling out silently into the cold hearts."
~Akshay Vasu


Obviously I need to track down Akshay Vasu.

"Writing has always been therapy for me. When life cuts me, I bleed on paper."
~Steve Maraboli

This has been a life motto for some time.

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

must we starve on crumbs from long ago through bars these men made steel

Random profile reading brought me this:
"A diva, a goddess, an insomniac and a nymphomaniac. A lovable person and an occasional bitch. These are who I am. I will not judge you for your lifestyle choices. I respect your choices, I ask the same of you. If you can not show mutual respect and be a"
And I had to check this. I mean, first, sure, someone who describes themselves as a diva, a goddess, an insomniac and a nymphomaniac, I think it's a fairly safe bet they're an egotistical, overly-emotional drama magnet.

But it was how this cut off.

So I checked it out in my own profile. Copied what was there into a notecard, copied the text above into the box, and yeah, there's no more room for characters after those sentences. But it's kind of like Twitter--if it's too long for your FL bio, put it in your SL bio. Then revise what you've said in the FL bio.

I always thought the character count for the FL bio section was 250 characters, but the above comes out to 253, which seems odd. Why not 250 or 255? Why 253?

Anyway, I found it odd.

In other news, a couple new charities on the sidebar, both relating to the devastation of Cyclone Idai. As with all the others, give if you can, every bit will help.

Humanity and Inclusion (that's the main link, the sidebar logo is specifically for the Mozambique campaign) is a charity that largely concentrates on child education throughout Africa, but the sidebar link will tell you about their rescue efforts for victims of the cyclone. And JAM International operates throughout Africa with social, economic and educational support, but are also trying to support victims of the cyclone.

Monday, March 18, 2019

a semi on skates, baby you’re restless

I don't know how long the "St. Patrick's Town event is going to be up, but I went on the day of, and while there were some larger-size decorations I'm tempted to go back and get, pickings are kind of slim for outfits.



I did find something amusing to watch, though.



So this is what happens when a four-legged avatar uses a dance ball for two-legged avatars.



I'm also baffled by the Mardi Gras beads.



I mean, don't get me wrong, gold hooves, good Kelpie-color horse, it could fit in a pinch, kind of on the "green beer" scale of celebration, but still.



The Bootsy Collins Mardi Gras glasses threw me too.

But the dance positions were amusing.

Saturday, March 16, 2019

I still don't know what this all means to me

This is not an outfit. It's a shamrock tattoo with a tartan belt.

In the meantime, a very strange chat capture:
[21:54] Ixxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: danger [jxxxxxx] fake , racker is conta
"Conta" apparently means "account"?
[21:56] Sxxx Nxxxxxx: The robin flies at dawn
Yeah, because that didn't make very much sense.
[21:57] gxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): muak te amo
Which is "I love you", which makes even less sense. Then this:
[22:05] Ixxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: to a player who hits the women in second life, his name rl and [lxxx bxxxx], city reef, federal retired, he has several bills, he takes advantage of the gambling women, after he does not have what it takes to get him some, watch out for his lindens, scripts, all he can get, some of his avatars: [mxxxxxxx], [dxxxxxxx], [qxxxxxx], [xxxx], [xxxxxxxxxxxxx], [xxxxxxxxxxx], [dxxxxxx], [dxxxxxxxxxxxx] [ixxxxx]. [ixxxxxxxx], [mxxxxxxxx] among others careful with this racker
[22:06] Emilly Orr: I guess...thank you for the warning, but....why here? Why not in some of the gambling groups?
She didn't say anything else, so I started looking up some of the names. "[jxxxxx]" is six years on the grid, no picture, no SL bio, no picks, no FL bio. What I tend to call a blank profile or alt account. There is no "[mxxxxxxx]" but there is a "[mxxxxxxxxxx]", which, again, is 3 years on the grid, no picture, no SL bio, no picks, no FL bio. No "[dxxxxxxx]" was found, so can't get any info there. There's no "[qxxxxxx]" but there is a "[qxxxxxxxx]", which again--nearly two years old, no no picture, no SL bio, no picks, no FL bio.

I am beginning to see a pattern.

Let's run down the rest. So "[xxxx]", same thing, 7 years old, no picture, no SL bio, no picks, no FL bio; "[xxxxxxxxxxxxx]" didn't exist; "[xxxxxxxxxxx]" didn't exist; "[dxxxxxx]" didn't exist; "[dxxxxxxxxxxxx]" didn't exist; "[ixxxxx]" didn't exist; "[ixxxxxxxx]" didn't exist, but "[ixxxxxxxxxxxxx]" did (9 months old, no other info), along with "[ixxxxxxxxxxx]", who's four years old and nada elsewise; and "[mxxxxxxxx]" is 2 months old and has no other info.

Okay, so buncha alts, that I get. Why do we care? The group this is being posted in is a pastoral photographic sim.
[22:17] bxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Ixxxxxx] can you im me a list of those names please
[22:21] bxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: mmmm weird
[22:21] bxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: the owner or a mod on?
[22:25] Emilly Orr: [Kxxxx], most of them don't exist, at least under search.

So I pulled Ms. [Ixxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx]'s profile next. This is her SL bio:
Sou muito legal, mas não me faça sentir ameaçada ou reprimida, pressionada, viro uma fera.
Which means "I'm very cool, but do not make me feel threatened or repressed, pressed, I become a beast."

My two thoughts are: this guy and all his alts are legitimately sleazy and running a Linden scam on the impressionable, or, Ms. [Ixxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] used to date this guy, or one of his alts, was spurned for some reason, and wants to tear him down. Calling someone a scammer is a pretty easy way to get people to suspect a random man.

My only question left is, what's a "racker"?

I'm not going to go through the groups all the alts are in, I really don't care that much, but seriously, if you're going to warn people about a scammer, these are the steps to go through:
  1. Report the name to the Lindens using the "Report Abuse" menu item under "Help" in most browsers. Include any relevant chat for verification.
  2. Put together a case for why you believe X is doing bad things. Present it calmly. You are trying to warn people, not cause hysteria or disbelief. Keep your complaints simple and clear.
  3. POST IT IN THE RIGHT GODDAMN GROUP.
Okay? Okay. Moving on.

Tuesday, March 12, 2019

the blur and the noise of the screaming can blind and distract you

Oh, boy, here we go again.
[11:29] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: very disappointed in [name of store]. I have bought much and like th cloths ,but most recently bout many items and did not receive nor hear back. I sent post cards with items , I went to the redeliver still nothing. Unless theres a good reason it appears customer service is not the priority.
We hear this so damned often at this point, it's draining.
[11:30] Dxxx Txxxx: there is a good reason
[11:30] Exxxx Cxxxxxxxx: here we go again...she has a child...she's taking care of her child in RL.
[11:30] rxxxx Txxx: she is not in sl at the moment
[11:30] Cxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Just click the redelivery
[11:30] Dxxx Txxxx: yepp
[11:30] Exxxxxxxxxx Mxxxx: She may need to put a notice on the front of her profile.
She has. It's right there.
[11:31] jxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes i think she does
[11:31] Dxxx Txxxx: she has always been so kind and generous w us and ppl just dont wanna be ptient
[11:31] jxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i had no idea
Not our problem, because someone complains about the designer being gone at least twice a week. If you don't pay attention in group chat, that's on you.
[11:31] Emilly Orr: Customer service is a priority, you just need to contact a CSR.
[11:31] Cxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: if you have your transaction info, put it in a notecard to [bxxxxxdxxxx]
[11:31] Emilly Orr: The one she lists on her profile is [Bxxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxx]
[11:32] Emilly Orr:
"In case of Missing items in your inventory or failed deliveries, please do the following:
Teleport to the REDELIVERY TERMINAL at MAIN STORE and get your item delivered inmediately!
If this didn't work, please try this:
Clear cache: Edit Preferences Network Clear cache. Then Apply, ok, and restart sl."
[11:32] Emilly Orr: Also from her profile.
[11:32] Kxxxxx Cxxxxx: do not clear cache!
[11:33] Kxxxxx Cxxxxx: it just makes computer slower that is for corrupted inventory or textures
I'd like to see evidence of that. Every single time my inventory doesn't load, my Favorites bar disappears, I clear my caches and presto, everything comes back perfect.
[11:33] Ixxxx Bxxxxxxxx: Yes, she needs to put current info on her profile. Direct people to those who can take care of customers instead of saying to contact her when she apparently doesn't have the time. Can't always blame the customers when they are doing what they thought they needed to do.
[11:33] Emilly Orr: [Bxxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxx]
[11:33] Exxxx Cxxxxxxxx: She's taking care of a child in RL
[11:34] Emilly Orr: Is the direct person.
[11:34] Exxxx Cxxxxxxxx: RL is more important
[11:34] Emilly Orr: Which is the name on her profile.
[11:34] Cxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: She has always told ppl to contact [Bxxxxxxxxx]
[11:35] Ixxxx Bxxxxxxxx: Be clear, I wasn't the one complaining. But I am saying that it sounds like this customer did what she thought she needed to do based on what is written about these issues on [Pxxxxx]'s profile.
I don't think she did, though, as I point out below.
[11:35] Ixxxx Bxxxxxxxx: [Pxxxxx] should update her profile and tell people these things are going on and what to do in the meantime.
[11:36] Emilly Orr: But it's obvious she didn't, because she tried to contact [Pxxxxx], instead of [Bxxxxxxxxx].
[11:37] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes i did i did all those things mentioned and nothing i will contact [bxxxxxxxxxx] with my not card thanks all for input
Her admission she didn't contact the manager for this store in the first place.
[11:37] Pxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: It does say on [pxxxxx]s profile to drop her a note with her transcation info and she will try and resend [11:38] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes i sent a notecard with all tranactions
[11:38] Emilly Orr: You're welcome, [Rxxxxxx].
[11:38] Pxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: [Rxxxxxxx] I would contact [Bxxxxxxxxx]
[11:38] Ixxxx Bxxxxxxxx: Because it doesn't say to contact [Bxxxxxxxxx]. It says "Misdeliveries: Try Redelivery Terminal at the Landing Point if it fails, drop me a note with your transaction info and I will resend asap. Check my Pick #02 for more help" and pick #2 says "In case of Missing items in your inventory or failed deliveries, please do the following:
Teleport to the REDELIVERY TERMINAL at MAIN STORE and get your item delivered inmediately!
If this didn't work, please try this:
Clear cache: Edit Preferences Network Clear cache. Then Apply, ok, and restart sl.
If your items are still missing, send me a notecard including your transaction information, name of the item and Your Name. The item will be deliver as soon as possible." which she says she did. O'm not trying to start an argument, just simply stating that her info needs updating in order to avoid this kind of problem.
I already said that earlier. And explained the issue. Which is on her profile.
[11:39] Emilly Orr: It does say to contact [Bxxxxxxxxx]. FIRST PAGE OF HER PROFILE.
[11:39] Emilly Orr: "➊ Manager and Support: [Bxxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxx]"
[11:39] Emilly Orr: That's on her SL bio page.
[11:40] Emilly Orr: ABOVE the section you quoted.
Can she...not read? Is that it?
[11:40] Ixxxx Bxxxxxxxx: And I am sure if it had said to contact [Bxxxxxxxxx] for delivery issues, she would have. But instead she followed the directions and shouldn't have been bitched at for it. Pretty simple.
[11:41] Emilly Orr doesn't think she contacted [Bxxxxxxxxx] first.
[11:41] Emilly Orr: That's the only point I'm making.
[11:41] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes it does but does not say to contact this person just saying first sorry
[11:41] Pxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: right both then tells her to drop a notecard to herself....so really what is the right answer.?
[11:41] Emilly Orr: What do you think "Manager and Support" means, [Rxxxxxxx]?
[11:42] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: it does say to drop a nc to herself
[11:42] Emilly Orr: AFTER telling you who's managing things.
[11:42] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: emly kma Im only trying to get help not get bitched at ok thank you
[11:42] Emilly Orr: Fine.
And it's "Emilly".
[11:42] jxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: can i get someone a cuppa tea ?
[11:42] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: be nice rule 1
For me, at this point? This is nice.
[11:42] jxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: with a cooky ?
[11:42] Ixxxx Bxxxxxxxx: bingo
[11:43] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ok ty thats really nice try to get help and get this ok thaks
[11:45] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ➋ Misdeliveries: Try Redelivery Terminal at the Landing Point if it fails, drop me a note with your transaction info and I will resend asap. Check my Pick #02 for more help
[11:45] Emilly Orr: Look at the line above that.
I mean, my gods, how many times do I have to say it?
[11:45] Cxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: well no matter what, there's only two people that can help you and they aren't online - the other 20k of us can't do a thing.
Ultimately, that's what it comes down to, in the end.
[11:46] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: again emly kma bitch
It's still "Emilly", thanks.
[11:47] Emilly Orr: Still trying to make the one point.
[11:48] txxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: nope your dust puffffffffffffffffffff
[11:48] Emilly Orr laughs. Noted.
Ultimately, I get the feeling she's still clueless. And that, no one can help with. Ignorance can be turned around, but stupidity goes straight to the bone.

Monday, March 4, 2019

a hot rod decaying in the thorns and the weeds

Because sooner or later, this had to come up in a group chat, right?
[13:47] Fxxxx ღ Lxxxxxx (lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): this is a random question
I bet it is. For once, I am leaving in the random-character display names, to make this point.
[13:47] Fxxxx ღ Lxxxxxx (lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): hey all
[13:48] Fxxxx ღ Lxxxxxx (lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): what is a good site to customize your SL name ??
And here we go again. I must get in trouble over this issue at least twice a month, easily. I figure, I'm as polite as I can be when someone comes by work with an unpronounceable name. I will either apologize because I don't know how to pronounce their name, while not pronouncing their stupid name full of unpronounceable characters, or use their legacy name instead. Problem solved.
[13:48] Kxxx (kxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): there is a random name generator
[13:48] Kxxx (kxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): does fantasy names and all kinds
Yeah, that's not the kind of thing she's talking about. She's talking about "cool" generators like this one and this one. You know, the things that spit out malformed text strings to copy as your 'cool new name'. Might as well be Zalgo text for all the readability they have.
[13:48] Mxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxx (xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): yeh thats whati thought
[13:49] Fxxxx ღ Lxxxxxx (lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): i have a name but i keep seeing people with hearts and starts etc
[13:49] Fxxxx ღ Lxxxxxx (lxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): stars *
That's an asterisk.

(Yes, I know what she meant. Shush.)
[13:49] ᴋxxxxxxxxx (mxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): You can't customize it: the name you have is usually handed down through generations that came before you
[13:49] ᴋxxxxxxxxx (mxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): No but seriously anything with "cool name generator" will work i think; at least it did for me X°D
[13:49] Mxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxx (xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): ahhh
[13:50] ᴋxxxxxxxxx (mxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): Some specific characters aren't allowed by LL yet though
True, and the 'cool' name generators add those in, and people consistently see squares for those characters. What does a square sound like? How does one pronounce a blank square? "Hhhh"? How do you even translate that into understandable language?
[13:53] Emilly Orr: Well, if it helps you decide at all, [Fxxxx], if I cannot parse out a name in the mess of alternate characters, you get called by your legacy name if I see you in person. I refuse to apologize for that.
[13:54] ɱxxx Âxxxxx-Lxxxxxxx-Ðxx-Đxxxxx (mxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): I have no regrets with my name
[13:55] Emilly Orr: Yeah, but your name can be basically understood.
"Basically".
[13:55] Emilly Orr: People who toss in Hebrew and Thai random characters bug the crap out of me.
This came up once, actually, in a conversation I had with friends on another chat server.
[3:31 PM] Emilly: So, fellow dropped by the club, he's been around before. I've been calling him by his legacy name because--and I've pointed this out more than once--I cannot pronounce his display name.
[3:32 PM] Emilly: It's "ςђเשคร".
[3:33 PM] Emilly: So, to me--and understand, this took a bit, because this is partially Thai, partially Hebrew, among others--I translate that as "Sah-dje-eu-shin-dh-er".

He says? "Chivas".
Or more recently:
12:14 PM] Emilly: [12:07] Second Life: Ã× Å”ÅÃŸÃŸÄ¨Ä– BŔĄVĨŤŻ ([Rxxxxx Bxxxxxx]) is now known as ĎĴ [Ŕxxxxx Bxxxxxx].
[12:14 PM] Emilly: I mean, I guess we're all glad [Rxxxxx] went for something more or less identifiable as language? But geesh.
I'm all for readable names, is my main point here.
[13:56] Yxxx Hxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx (yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): hunny and me, we are oldie birdies... we prefer plain text names =)
[13:56] Mxxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxx (xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx): lol i dont care as long a si can read it
That's my point exactly. If I can't read it, I'm no longer bothering.



In other news...yes, I know it's called the Whore Couture Fair. I know it's the tackiest thing that's ever tackied, year after year. But please, for the love of all things, can you not come to the Fair covered in male ejaculate when you're going to the event to SHOP FOR THINGS?!??

Thaaaank you.



And that's not a skirt, it's a belt. And Jesus Christ, WEAR UNDERWEAR.



And your friend is pretty tacky, too. I'm actually completely happy she never wholly rezzed in, because I did not want to kill brain cells seeing what she thought was appropriate for shopping. Plus, she looks fourteen.

Thursday, February 28, 2019

here in the half-light, the motorhomes leave

This person does not exist. This is why. This is how you can help train the AI to create these images.

I find this both compelling and creepy. Compelling in that it's phenomenal we've come this far already in training artificial intelligences both to recognize what makes up a recognizable image of a human being, and allowing us as individual existing humans to help the machine learn. Creepy in that the first thing that crossed my mind was nefarious repurposing: how many of these images of nonexistent people are going to start showing up on Facebook profiles, Tindr and Grindr profiles, or used to 'catfish' other humans for emotional or financial grift reasons?

I've said this for a few years now, but this reinforces it: we now live in a time where we can no longer trust images, moving or still, to be true simply because we see them. This is further proof of that truth.

In other news, this wasn't surprising in the least. In fact, the only surprise I felt reading that article was that 25% of the grid being geared to adults strikes me as a tad low, and I thought it was higher. Also, the comments section for that post immediately went off the rails. I'm fairly sure I'm done commenting--I think I made my point, even if that point was instantly misunderstood--but I do find it interesting that the automatic first conclusion as to the ratio of sex/extreme content sims to non-sex/extreme content sims was 'dem filthy liberals'.

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

that our natural state is drowning, that our natural state is burning

First, an image of the pool in question:



This is EVH's Rock Pool. Second, why I'm showing it:
[11:09] Emilly Orr: So far, the only problem besides pose adjustment with the pool? You kind of have to jump to get out.
[11:09] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: It hits the spot
[11:09] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: well..keeps one spry
[11:09] Emilly Orr grins
[11:10] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: Maybe a set of lava stairs
[11:10] Emilly Orr: eee
I mean, I suppose I could pick up a good lava texture and a set of simple mesh stairs and toss in an animation script...but still, ow.
[11:10] Emilly Orr: Guess it would encourage people to walk quickly?
[11:11] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: Sometimes one has to learn about sacrifice. It is a morality tale
[11:11] Emilly Orr: I see.
[11:12] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: In order to achieve great heights, one must learn to let go of the things they stood upon before.
[11:13] Emilly Orr: While true, I don't think that generally means feet.
[11:13] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: What else does one stand upon but feet
[11:13] Emilly Orr just grins and shakes her head
[11:13] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: Once the feet have melted away like the past, one can crawl humbly to their goals
[11:14] Emilly Orr: Ah, it's a humility lesson.
[11:14] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: yes.
[11:14] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: People will be better off feetless
[11:14] Emilly Orr: If we learn to hover, maybe.
[11:14] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: Less mischief afoot.
[11:15] Emilly Orr: Or maybe we'll....oh, that was terrible.
[11:15] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: You knew
[11:15] Emilly Orr: I suspected, I didn't *know*
[11:15] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: you knew in your heart that it was all for the pun.
[11:18] Emilly Orr grins
[11:18] Mxxxxxxx Wxxxxxxxxx: feel free to tell my morality tale to the girls
I'll go one better, this is groan-worthy enough to post to the blog.

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

and you’re aching for change, but you keep starving your heart

It is never comfortable when someone needs to be hit with the clue-by-four. It is always painful, and can cause recriminations on both sides. In this particular instance, I was the one holding the clue-by-four, but I think it hurt me just as much, if not more.

The upshot is...I've been asked not to extend the rent on the annoying beach shack. Which, on the one hand, wouldn't bother me, because it's far from my favorite place. (Though I will gladly rent again from Fantasy Skyboxes, if I ever get up to where L$499 per week is comfortable again. Or just move back to Caledon.

However, none of that addresses the emotional turmoil, which will likely take some few days to settle. And I'm not sure how stable the ground will be from here. I'm not seeing trains, or fire, but there are definitely whistles in the distance. Because just ceasing to rent there, doesn't solve the issue that made me rent there in the first place.)



So this morning, in some attempt to calm before I log back in to the grid, I found myself going through saved images from the past. This was taken during the Praying Mary hunt. Note the flexi hair. And at this point, I can clearly perceive the difference between mesh and system, but...overall, I think it holds up fairly well for its age. It was taken back in 2012.



I don't remember the haunt I was in at the time. I do know this was from my doll days, back in 2013. It was a very interesting house, with sourceless teal light, and most of the haunts in it were also some interesting shade of teal, green or pale blue. Intriguing effect.



Aged pixels or not, this is still one of my favorite images from SL, taken in 2008, when I knew far less about photography and composition than I do now. The avatar I was wearing I don't even recall, and it can barely be made out anyway against the darkness of the rest of the tavern. But this was the height of Innsmouth as a sim--since this time, it's changed hands several times, and landscaping. I couldn't even tell if this little tavern still exists.



I remember getting in a bit of trouble for this, when I lived in Caledon Morgaine. After Sumie Kawashima passed, I'd put up her Darkhouse, a traditional tower lighthouse with a dark beam of light she'd given to me as a gift and an in-joke. The rest of the 'house' on the land was a floating chain attached to two floating, cavorite-ore-containing islands. It was a very narrow strip of land butting up against the mountain heights that separate Morgaine from Wellsian, so I thought a non-traditional 'home' took better advantage of the narrow dimensions. But people had...objected, let's say.

In retaliation, I built this skull--this was snapped in the process of building it, in 2008--and popped it up about a hundred meters above the house, slipped a green glowing snake into its mouth, and made the whole thing translucent. If I was going to be accused of being too strange and dark, I was going to fly the Dark Mark.

It stayed up for six months, Des defending my right to have it there, and what made me take it down was another resident across Morgaine's bay who'd logged in of a morning, looked out her window, and fell out of her desk chair. (In RL, yes.)

I didn't feel startling someone that badly was worth whatever value the protest had left, and took it down.

(It is notable that, two years later when I moved to Winterfell, and put the same tower up, and was told to take it down, I did...but replaced it with rubble and tumbled stones that stayed until I eventually left. That broke my heart, and while I understood no one knew what that lighthouse meant to me, to be summarily stripped of it because it was "too tall"--when essentially, I was on a small island in the middle of a forested zone with trees nearly as tall--well, emotionally, I left Winterfell that day. It just took a bit before I stopped renting, and formally moved out.



Yeah, probably. We'll see how it goes.

See you on the grid.

Monday, February 25, 2019

I might be lost somehow, have strayed from the fold

Well, today was the snapping point. I have given up and gotten my own place again.



Look...here's the thing. I'm an understanding person. I believe in polyamory. I believe in not treading on my partners' privacy, if they want to be with other people, and it's not understood to be a threesome or moresome situation. This is not a jealous twinge, is what I'm saying.



But I am beyond tired of logging in and being told "Hey, I have company", and I then have to invent a place to poof to that's either on a roleplay sim I'm not dressed for, or my work studio. Which a), is on a homestead so frequently I end up crashing once I port there, and b), I really only use for, well, work. Right?



And it's not the place I wanted. Hardly. While I do like both the people managing the Fantasy Skyboxes chain (a grand mix of skyboxen, ground homes and RP of medieval, fae and Game of Thrones variety), and how easy it is to rent there...it wasn't my choice. I am so not the beach bunny archetype.



And I'm going to have to remember, every time I come here, to set it for sunset or midnight, because--well, just LOOK at the first three pictures! All that sun! It's disturbing!



But...it's also cheap. Right now this annoying beach cabin is costing me L$199 per week. I can manage that. I can set home here and always have a 'home' to go to...if I get kicked out, again, of the home I have now because...there's company over who doesn't know I live there.

Cue aggrieved sigh.

Thursday, February 21, 2019

so get your armaments out, she’s always looking for trouble

And then this happened:
[22:06] mxxxx Gxxxx: plz 20L$
[22:06] Second Life: mrjoj Ghost paid you L$1.
[22:07] Emilly Orr: Plz get a job
[22:07] mxxxx Gxxxx: ok
[22:08] Emilly Orr: Wait. Why did you send me a Linden?
[22:08] mxxxx Gxxxx:
[22:09] Emilly Orr blinks
So, pulled the profile, as is my wont. Eight years on the grid, so that's at least seven years and eleven months past the time he should have figured out begging doesn't work. And I have no idea what language he speaks, but it's definitely not English. No, really--this phrase was on his profile picks: "mzh 7 arta7 lha 7 klna n7bha". I can't even take that into Google Translate because of the numbers. If anyone has any clue, feel free to let me know.

In other news, this bit of oddity:
[13:25] vxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx:
[13:02] Nxxxxx Bxx: [Zxxxx] 101: True Touching @ 2PM SLT ...an intellectual discussion on an M sim.

There are many forms of erotic interaction, ranging from "AFK sex" thru fantasy rituals involving space shuttles, opaque argot, and exploding incense.

Can we have intimate meetings with our authentic selves, not as fictional characters, while maintaining safe and sane boundaries?

In RL, similar challenges. Join us as we look at the measures they use to embrace clients while protecting themselves, their families, and their livelihoods.
[13:26] vxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: BEHOLD! How the sausage is made.
[13:26] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: wtf?
[13:26] Emilly Orr: "Opaque argot"?
Also..."exploding incense"?
[13:26] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I'm still reeling over the whole sausage recipe-women's studies in SL Thang going on
[13:28] Emilly Orr: Yeah, true.
[13:31] Emilly Orr: Especially as so many of their womens' studies classes center around ways to get money from the men they can't stand and are evil. Because, y'know, icky men.
[13:31] Emilly Orr: Baffling.
[13:34] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I just - honestly, WHY are you offering up the sausage recipe? Thankfully, I can't think of any CLIENTS who'd want to go to that.
[13:36] Emilly Orr: Well, the Sakura Academy seems to have died again for a bit, because [Ixxx] was running that, but back when it was, it was a ten-part course.
[13:38] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Packed full of feminist discourse?
[13:38] Emilly Orr: Appearance and Style, which is important; an Art of Conversation class, also how to keep it going; Building Client Relationships, though most of us come in knowing how to do that; Teamwork and Collaboration, which is also encouraged on the job; "Sharing Experience", which is our only iffy woo-woo sounding one; Business with Sensitivity, which was sort of how to mix business with a sensitive touch; Managing Difficult Clients; Technical Skills of the Trade; one class on 'Bringing It All Together', which I believe was supposed to be an overview; and the last one was the 'fast track' which just hit the high points of the other nine classes.
[13:38] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx is already packed full of feminist discourse, but she's learned to get play nice with others.
[13:40] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Also - [Ixxx]'s classes? I'd totally take.
[13:41] Emilly Orr: Oh, absolutely.
[13:41] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Did she advertise them on AC?
She means the Aether Chrononauts calendar and group, and that's when the penny dropped. My gods, the Hydrazine Queen is advertising these woo-fests on the Aether Chrononauts calendar. And no, no no no no. One simply does not do this. Not only are these things we don't necessarily want clients to learn, but we're essentially giving out information, for free, that anyone could sit in on, take notes on, then set up their own damn competing house. Are they mental?

Wait, don't answer that, I already know.
[13:42] Emilly Orr: No, no, these were always internal classes, not open to the public at all. You had to BE a Blossom to take one, period.
[13:43] Vvxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: THAT makes sense.
[13:46] Emilly Orr: I hadn't caught on that she sent that through the Aether group. That's...insane. And really, really dumb.
[13:50] Emilly Orr: That means she's inviting both potential (or actual) clients, as well as potential (or actual) competition.
[13:50] Emilly Orr: One doesn't want the information, the other category is going to use it against her.
[13:50] Emilly Orr just shakes her head.
[13:51] Violet Scrivener (violetscrivener): But let us bow before her big brain
[13:51] Emilly Orr grins
Hey, more power to them. This is the one thing we can honestly say about [Zxxxx] House, that their classes in Feminist Empowerment While Hooking are things Sakura has never offered, and it's also the one thing they aren't just imitating from us, like shoestring relations. So...let them do their woo thing. Obviously they're after a vastly different clientele anyway.

Wednesday, February 20, 2019

rocket man, burning out his fuse up here alone

Oddity out of nowhere, and I'm keeping the references in to the actual group, this time, because it's relevant.
[11:25] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hey All I have a great Idea there should be a sales group called Wicked Wednesday and it just have BDSM sex Gorean related sale items hmmmmmmm sounds like a great idea right? Some one get on that... thanks..
Meet Mr. D. Named that way because his display name starts with a different letter than his in-world name. Mr. D's kind of a jerk.
[11:25] Emilly Orr: 25L started as a Gorean-merchants-only group.
[11:25] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: laughs that is a good idea, but most of the 25l one is BDSM
[11:26] Emilly Orr: That too
[11:26] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: lol
[11:26] Emilly Orr: Even on weeks where it's tilted largely towards clothing stores, there are collars, there are harnesses, there are camisks, there are cages. So we're sort of already there.
[11:27] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no no they are not they are mostly all modern reg clothing
I don't know where he gets this. I went to the 25L group's Flickr page, and didn't even have to scroll far to find examples. (Note: some of these are NSFW.)

This was a slave bed from Krescendo. Deliciously Bound, who mostly makes fetish gear, put out this merchant sack camisk a bit back. In fact, there's a lot of camisks on offer, nearly every week--like this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this...I mean, we all get the idea by now, right?

Then there are the harnesses, like this one, and this fetishy number. And this piece, while not a leather harness, could probably still work.

How about a leather thong for the guys? That was an offering one week. And this fur stole was unisex and modifiable, and it would certainly work with Mr. D's character in Gor. (So would this set of trews and this fur drape for that matter. Or this outfit. Or this sweater.)

There have been some harem girl outfits, some general "Arabian" style outfits like this one, this one and this one, some poses that could easily be used in a bondage setting, and while this is slightly more modern, I could see it on some bondmaid in a tavern dance pit.

How about collars? I remember this one and this one, this one...and there have been others.

And I've seen veils, like this one and this one.

There have been Gorean-appropriate footwear offerings, like these sandals, and these strapped boots. There are also occasionally fur leggings.

And as far as furnishings, this could work in a Gorean setting, it's even in healer's colors. And this hanging bed also could work in Gor. This chair would also be perfectly appropriate in a Gorean home or hall. And there was this cage for slave girls, and every couple of weeks, someone offers up a fur.

This bit of statuary was a reproduction of the "Swords in Stone" monument at Hafrsfjord, Norway.

If he wanted to kidnap a panther girl, there was this.

I remember buying this set, of claw blades, which come in a bloody and clean version. They live in my Hallows folder, but I'm absolutely sure that a sufficiently creative sadist could have made use of them.

There's also been a variety of Free Women gowns--I'm not bothering to link them--and some few 'bond girl' kirtles, like this.

And finally, while this set piece would require some creativity, the ottoman, at least, had appropriate animations for a BDSM scene.

I trust we all get the point by now, right? There are items. There are other items that are available on the 30L and 35L lists. And if you're looking to upscale a little bit, joining the Smooching Serpents group will get you at least one daily "sale" item--just keep in mind their idea of "sale" pricing is usually L$399 for one hour, instead of L$1899. It's still an amazing deal, absolutely, it's just not L$25, L$30, or L$35.

Are there more items made for women than men? Sure. Because there are more women than men in SL. But male items do exist. They are there. And this idiot has managed to miss all of them.
[11:27] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: i wish more creators worked silks and such towards the mesh bodies now
[11:27] Emilly Orr: You haven't been hitting every store, then. But I said 25L STARTED Gorean. They've adapted since to modern, to Victorian, to occasional SF attire.
[11:27] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: they are extremely hard to find
She's talking about silks here, not male items.
[11:28] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: sorry if your seeing that stuff please send me those sales list
You're just not looking. And I would have pulled something together, but you're such a jerk I have zero desire to help you.
[11:28] Emilly Orr: They are. I still have to use some flexi panel skirts when I'm wearing silks.
[11:28] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: also 30L has a few BDSM/gor items
[11:28] Emilly Orr: [Dxxxx], Girly's, Luas, Roawenwood just off the top of my head. They're about half BDSM/bondage, half fashion.
[11:29] Emilly Orr: 30L has done the same thing-- they started as purely modern, and have slowly added in furniture stores, and stores that build for fetish.
[11:29] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: am sure if you send a NC to the head of the group they can work out something like that if needed
[11:29] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no they don't they have things that I would not call BDSM they have lil cute things that has a cuddle or something, that No one but maybe some high rise petty boys and girls would own
Are you kidding? So...what you're saying is that it's not that there aren't BDSM and fetish items on the list, it's that they don't fit your narrow, pig-headed definition of "manly" BDSM items? Really?
[11:30] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: chuckles is why i do the kinky event and fetish fair
[11:31] Txxxxxx Hxxxxx: maybe you should hit a bdsm event? there's Romp right now
It's a good point. There's generally some bondage-geared event every month in SL, let alone all the wide variety of stores with adult items who cater to the community.
[11:31] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and sure the hell nothing that a Guy that has a measurable amount of testosterone would have
Y'know...usually the guys who say they're entirely made of testosterone are desperately afraid they're gay. Not saying that describes Mr. D, but it's a trend.
[11:32] Emilly Orr: Romp is open now, The Gacha Garden is doing a Fetish round, there's XXX, I think Red Light District is close to opening up again...
[11:32] Txxxxxx Hxxxxx: but at Redeux there is Artisan Fantasy with their amazing stuff, and Painfully Divine is offering a spanking bench too :D I am sure there are more things, these are just the two immediately coming to my mind
I was first introduced to Painfully Divine solely as a bondage shop, because of their line of rose-thorn furnishings and collars. They've expanded since then, but I still tend to think of them as BDSM first.

Artisan Fantasy is more just...really good pieces, for landscaping, furnishings, occasional homes, the rare actual outfit...but they do have a line of adult furnishings that are very nice.
[11:32] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: i have a nice littel dungeon along with my capture/rape cellar.... but then i have no testosterone
[11:32] Emilly Orr: Right, I think Kinky's still open too
[11:32] Emilly Orr: Painfully Divine usually shows up in the 30L list, but yeah, nearly everything she makes is geared to BDSM/bondage.
[11:33] Txxxxxx Hxxxxx: I think Painfully Divine is in 25LT :)
[11:33] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: i go and look at each store on the lists and only buy what i may use, im picky but thats just me [11:33] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: she normally is too
[11:33] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: so is roawenwood
Don't get me wrong, all of the sales groups try to bring in 'new blood', so to speak, but there is a core group that shows up on every list. And many of those still tilt towards Gorean and BDSM items, because that's how this list started.
[11:34] Emilly Orr: I am too, I used to hit every store and if I thought I could use it at all, I'd buy it. I'm pickier these days.
[11:34] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: even boxing up and tossing really old stuff my inventory is at 27K
[11:35] Emilly Orr: Don't even. I've been steadily culling since January 2018 and I am only NOW down to 157K
[11:35] Emilly Orr: On the other hand, I know half of that is textures.
[11:35] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: need a texture organizer
[11:39] Emilly Orr: I need to go through them first. I don't want to put anything in an organizer I'm not keeping.
[11:39] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: not sure i have an empty one though
[11:41] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: still say we need things that guys with testosterone would buy not guys with man buns smirks ...... yes yes I am arguing this because I miss annoying [Txxxxxx]
[11:42] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx grabs popcorn to watch
[11:43] sxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: tosses some butter and pop corn cheese to [Cxxxxx]
[11:43] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: ohh thank you...keep going ill watch *smiles*
[11:43] Cxxxxxx Mxxxxxx: btw very nice to meet you [Dxxxx] Sir
At this point, the conversation trailed off. Also at this point, especially with that side line about him missing irritating a group mod, I pulled Mr. D's profile.

It will surprise no one that he's Gorean, that he's a sadist, that h thinks he's a Dom, that most of his groups are Gorean, that he's the typical "I do what I want/don't go running to my mate if I'm screwing someone else" guy. Now, that doesn't disqualify him for respect, partnered people are allowed to do what they choose to, though my personal opinion is that it's better if their partners know and support their actions. But, it does indicate a general mindset.

Also, he's in all three 'number' groups, with the exception of 55L Thursdays--he's in the 25L group, the 30L group, and the 35L group, so why the hell hasn't he seen this already? I maintain he's just not looking. Or he's dismissing the male items he finds as not being for him, you know a REAL man, instead of some "man bun" wearing sissy.

And please, get real. I've seen Marines in man buns. Hells, I've seen bodybuilders in skirts, so give the hell up. There is no "one way" to define masculinity, and trapping yourself in a box for your gender just isolates you.

Pfft, he sounds like a wannabe anyway.

Monday, February 18, 2019

knee-deep in water under a pylon

Oh, this is going to get grim. This is the first thing that's made me actually grateful that I haven't bought the materials to start in making things for Etsy (because I was still facing sewing everything by hand, as ten-plus years after moving into this apartment building we still don't have the sewing machine set up), though I did check my bank account in a panic to verify I wasn't one of the people affected. (Spoiler: I'm not, but that may well be because while I have a storefront, it doesn't have product yet.)

According to this Etsy moderator, this wasn't a hack or a mathematical error, but a change to the site itself that caused certain storefronts to be massively overcharged. Which is fine, I suppose (it's not fine), I mean, we're all happy it's not a hack, but...Etsy creators who were hit by this change in code were not happy in general:
TheraClay:

"Etsy drafted $395 out of my checking today?

"WT heck is going on? Did Etsy draft this out of my account? It's showing as a positive balance? I really need a response here, Etsy"

lovestrucksoul:

"My bank just cancelled my card bc Etsy tried to take over $5000 this morning :( I’m standing in the store unable to make a purchase for a crying 5 year old, wth???"

StuffedBras:

"Me Too. Etsy just charge my CC for $344.46 and I already had a postive balance. Now my Balance is showing higher balance by adding what they just charged.

Why doesn't etsy have a email support or phone number to get answers?"

BedazzledWitchery:

"I agree. I find it pretty disgusting Etsy that you continue to charge sellers higher and higher fees for ZERO customer service. We as sellers should have an email support/customer service phone number/chat dialogue. I have been on Etsy for five years, but I am seriously thinking of closing my shop and going to another webhosting/online shop."
Starting to sound like Linden Lab, isn't it?
ApparelArtbyMare:
"Same here. $1266+ was taken. I am definitely concerned. Supposedly I will receive a deposit from them which I should use to pay the debt which is charged on my cc and pending. With banks being closed on Monday this creates a delay of an additional day for the weekend to make sure it is resolved. Very uneasy. I've had alot of success with Etsy for the past 10 years or so but this has truly made me hesitate and wonder what is going on."

Peaceofmindinc:

"Yes, almost 5k was taken out. They deposited the amount into the payment account."

VictoriaLynnBoutique:

"Over $7,200 from mine. Can you say BIG overdraft?? Sucks."

StampedGold:

"Please let us know if they will be refunding credit cards. I do not want to pay any interest or have any actual charges go through on the over $4000 they just charged my $3000 limit credit card!!"

lovestrucksoul again, later in the same thread:

"Suntrust said they tried to charge me over $5,400 10 times :("
That's unconscionable.
SansoneStationery:
"They charged my credit card a heart-stopping $1,634.68 through automatic card payment (even though my sales consistently cover my fees daily)."

SopersCoins:
"They hit me for $1695. They are not legally allowed to charge cards for no reason. They did this on this Friday because this is when people’s biweekly checks get direct deposited. SCAM"

DarolsDivineDesigns:

"Well, they drafted $788.00 out of my bank account today! Completely unacceptable!"

TlcCreatesVintage:

"My card was charged over 1,000 dollars!!! WTF......and now they are just going to deposit that back into our accounts which will take till Tuesday for me to actually have that money!!!!! Not acceptable. It's a three day weekend PEOPLE!! We won't see that money anytime soon"
And it goes on, complaint after complaint, panicked Etsy seller after panicked Etsy seller. Jumping to the end of the thread:
LeafLee:

"I was charged over 1300$ and etys sent it to my bank account after chargeing a fee. Ya'll know most of the people who work for you view even 500$ as alot of money right? I'm a disabled woman just struggling to live here and this is some garbage to deal with. The money should have been returned to my card not sent to my bank account! Etsy REALLY MESSING UP HERE! I HAVE BEEN A LOYAL SELLER FOR OVER A DECADE!!"

ThreadTreasuresEmbro:
"Can you tell me DOES ETSY TEST MODIFICATIONS BEFORE THEY ROLL THEM OUT ONTO PRODUCTION SERVERS? If not, shame on you. If Etsy does, then your testing procedures need to be reviewed.

"This is unacceptable. All sellers need to know EXACTLY what happened."

BlackberryDesigns:

"I am rather shocked, not that this happened, but that Etsy has not been pro-active in making sure we were updated on a hourly basis. Twitter being the best use for this and the forums. Yes you do take in lightly as, once again, we are left in the dark. I suspect this is going to morph into a PR nightmare for Etsy because of their lack of 'Transparency'."

That70sChickVintage:

"The only 'site change' that I can think of is the change in forums. Has there been a security breach or hack?

"How could a 'site change' arbitrarily charge various amounts to Etsy Seller accounts/credit/debit cards ranging in the hundreds to the thousands of dollars?

"There should be regular updates in the announcement section, pinned to the top until this issue is resolved.

"CEO needs to put out a statement as to what this 'site change' was that allowed this to happen.

"With all due respect, hundreds of thousands of dollars in charges made in error deserves more than a brief update in the 'bugs' section."

MinxouriVintage:

"What site changes?

"The ones on that page where they list experiments.

"Oh yeah, they removed that a week ago."
SavoyFaire:

"Not only did I have mid month charges on Friday that bounced but I have charges on Tuesday that will now bounce as well as late fees and my credit rating will be affected. We trust you with our cards. Why wasn't this immediately sent like that Paypal offers now funds hit within half an hour by end of day Friday. That team should have stayed until every one was made whole. Who would even just say oh well they can wait until Tuesday to hit Wednesday especially with a holiday weekend? Not handled right at all."

CARUSSDESIGNZ:

"This is very unprofessional esp with all the changed. And the fact that even the Forums have changed and you need 2 'sign in' is truly crazy. Etsy is becoming more like eBay and that was why eBay Sellers came 2 Etsy in the first place. Im NOT very happy. Very very unprofessional and WE the Sellers have 2 pay the price for it. ON top of that with yet another Holiday and weekend, another delay. Would YOU like 2 get paid late ?"
SimonsTreasures:

"I want to know how we're going to get in touch with Etsy to discuss the credit card charges or bank fees that they've promised to pay. They don't answer the phone. I've called an Etsy number they sent me and they don't answer. An automated message tells you how to receive a call back and then they never call. So, they are going to pay the fees incurred, but how do we tell them what the fees are?"

soulharborjewelry:

"As a seller, I'm extremely concerned about all of this. I received the email from Etsy that my deposit was returned to my payment account so my bank account won't be seeing any money from Etsy until later this week. I'm also concerned about this from a buyer's perspective. I've read posts on other social media sites about people not wanting to buy on Etsy because of this. If you think this isn't hurting ALL of us, you're dead wrong. I've had a pretty quiet weekend for sales and I'm worried that this has already impacted my income."

SweetEscapesbyDebbie:

"This is absolutely ridiculous. Etsy attempted an $18,900 charge which did not go through on my bank account but now my account is frozen on a holiday weekend. Absolutely inexcusable."
Absolutely, I agree. There is no conceivable coding situation I can envision for an e-commerce site that would deduct such high--and seemingly completely random--amounts from their clients, and worse, the fact that they're not simply returning them to the same accounts charged, but rather, putting the fund back to each Etsy seller's 'payments' account--which means each seller has to manually send those funds back to their banks--this is going to cause even more overdrafts, stress, and all manner of panic.

Etsy will suffer over this. People are already talking about moving over to Redbubble, Shopify, society6 and other e-commerce sites over this issue. This is dire. And Etsy is doing very, very little to reassure anyone.